Moving on after a breakup – a transformative process filled with both heartache and hope – tends to reshape your life. The joy and connection that once were now give way to distress and disruption. A breakup not only impacts your mental state but also your happiness and financial situation.
A breakup can shake your world. It can be the worse type of rejection and utterly undermine your confidence. The loss of love is painful, leaving you feeling like a failure. You should accept those aching feelings, then, gradually, let go of them and replace them with hope and positivity. Few of us realize that this can be a time for a new and better beginning. Moving on after a breakup is not the end; it is a fresh start!
We are happy to share with you some tips we recommend that may aid in the next chapter of your life. Note that this list is not inclusive of usual tips! What works for some people, may not work for you. Everybody is different!
Let yourself grieve:
When you break up with someone you love, the loss is real. He or she was a critical part of your life. You assumed it would last forever. Let yourself feel the pain, anger, or any emotions you’re enduring. Denial will only make you feel worse in the long run, and it prevents you from healing.
Embracing the sting of rejection post-breakup can shake your confidence, leaving you with a sense of failure. Recognize these feelings of loss, slowly release them, and welcome hope and positivity. Many fail to see that moving on after a breakup signals a fresh, improved beginning, not the end.
Do not constantly view their Social Media profiles:
Social media can be the string that keeps you bound to your ex long after it is over. Reading about their latest happenings on Twitter and seeing pictures of their fun weekends on Facebook and Instagram only keeps you bound to them emotionally. All your energy is caught up in the past. If taken to extremes, this can become very toxic. It will prevent you from going after something new and better. Looking for pictures of them having fun can also be extremely depressing as you wonder what might have been. Social media has a magical “unfollow” button that can save you much pain and help you get over the past.
Limit contact :
Following the breakup, it is normal that you may still feel that emotional connection with them. It is tempting to grasp any excuse for a call or a text. Even if you’re no longer together, any reason will do. “Did I leave my book at your place?” “Have you seen my glasses?” These are simply excuses to see them again, because you may be holding on to hope that things could work out.
The truth is that you know better. It’s over. The differences that led to the breakup still exist. As much as we would like to hold on to this person, that won’t change these differences. If anything, it might help the pain linger. Buy a new book and new glasses, if necessary. The price you will pay will be far less expensive.
It’s different if you have kids with your ex. Communication will then be necessary at times, depending on your children’s ages. But that’s ok. Stay strong, and limit communication to topics or issues related to the kids…and nothing more.
Spend more time with friends:
Many of us neglect our friendships when we are in a serious relationship. Use this time to reconnect with friends who always get you in a happy mood. Meet for dinner. Get tickets for a movie. Join a gym together. The more you spend time with your friends, the less time is left over for wallowing about the past.
Develop new interests:
There is probably a list of things that you haven’t done because your ex wasn’t interested. Now is the time to grow as a person. Your ex refused to try Thai food? Well, now is your chance. Have you always wanted to volunteer at something interesting, but your ex complained it would take up too much of your time? Now, you have the time to pursue your interests. It the perfect time to grow to the next level. It’s a very freeing feeling to be able to do anything you want without having to consider someone else, so revel in it.
Conclusion
In conclusion, moving on after a breakup takes time. It’s a process that starts with grieving and eventually opens doors to endless possibilities. Although one chapter in your life has ended, an exciting future awaits.
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